Back from my hiatus

The past two weeks have been crazy busy, between the Festival of Colors and General Conference it has been nearly impossible to plan a date. But now with three dates under my belt I’m ready for my fourth.

Today I bought tickets for Divine Comedy for tomorrow night the only problem was who to ask. the first guy I asked was busy, the second guy I asked has to go to a ballroom lab(but really pushed for us to go out next week, so he’ll probably show up in my next post)  and the third guy has work.

Getting turned down three times in one night is my max, so this week I will not have a date. Not because of lack of trying though. It’s just another part of dating. So this weekend instead of going on a date I will be preparing for finals and going to the ward closing social (The school year is almost over, crazy right?).

Since I don’t have a great experience to tell you about, here's some dating advice from professionals.

 

 

 

3rd date

 

Not all dates are created equal. My first two dates went so well, not that this one was bad, but sometimes a date falls a little short. It started out great with Nickel City and by some freak accident Brayden and I won over 200 tickets through sheer dumb luck of getting the jackpot in one game. 

 

 our large stack of tickets compared to their small stack

 

But from tonight I’ve learned some important lessons for future dates.

• End the date when it’s over. After Nickel City Brayden wanted to play cards so we went to his place and played for a little while. As it got later we got tired and the conversation died easily.
• Clarify the plans. We told Cara’s date that we were going to Nickel City but didn’t specify anything about dinner. It wasn’t in our plans but we did go to Wendy’s for frosty’s as a last minute addition. It wasn’t until we were all headed home that Cara’s date mentioned he was going to go eat dinner because he hadn’t eaten all day. I felt horrible. Dates are to have fun with other people, not to starve them.
• Go cheap. Nickel City is pretty cheap but when the Nickels run low it’s easy to get caught in the trap of buying more.

Overall this date was great but there are some things I’ll definitely tweak for next week. This whole thing is a trial and error process so I can’t expect every date to be better than the last. Luckily it was just one date and with any luck all is not lost.

2nd chance

Good news for me and hopefully for you too, asking guys out gets easier. The first time was absolutely terrifying and although this one was still scary it wasn’t as bad. Considering that he is an RM you’d think it would be a million times worse. But it wasn’t. I just told him that I know this is really last minute but will you go out with me tomorrow night. So we did. Friday night we met at the Wilk so there were no “dad interrogation impersonations’ by the roommates. My only worry was where to say goodbye. I have no idea where he lives or where he would park his car (if he drives to campus) so I can’t really walk him home. But at the same time our date will last until midnight so do I just leave him to walk home in the dark?

But do not fret, all went well. So to my date. First of all his name is Daniel. We doubled with my roommate Carrie and our FHE dad, Brayden. We met at the Wilk and headed to The Wall. At first we didn’t know what to do by we eventually got comfortable and colored on the pillars, ate some food and played the most addicting game ever. Honestly The Wall is amazing. If you ever have to plan a date go there. It is the perfect relaxing date and the games are great for groups. Two hours later we were still saving the world from alien spaceships when we got kicked out. Note to self: The Wall closes at 12 on Friday nights. Unfortunately half way through eating fries and Buffalo wings Daniel caught on and asked, “Wait, you’re all freshmen.” But he quickly got over it and the night continued to improve from then on. So far both dates have been equally amazing.

 

Important side note: When I first told my mom that is an RM and also Asian she replied “you know that I’ve always wanted Asian grandbabies.” Besides being funny it proves a point that I need to make. One date does not mean marriage. My biggest fear about asking guys out is that they’ll think that I like them. This is not the case. The two guys I’ve asked out and the other four on my list are not guys that I “like”. Maybe one day a guy that I do like will realize I’m trying to be outgoing and he will ask me out. But how is your future husband going to know to ask you out if you don’t seem interested in dating? Just something to think about.

 

P.S. sorry there are no pictures this week. The Wall was too dark. I'll try harder next week.

Date Numero Uno

1:00 on Wednesday morning and I can’t sleep. Why? You ask. Because I just had one of the best dates ever. I’m not a complete hermit so this wasn’t the best because it was the only. Honestly it was the best because of who I was with. I know that sounds cliché but it is true. Alex and AJ visit us enough so we didn’t have to ask those awkward what-is-your-favorite-color questions. Actually… we did. But it was only because Cara had just taken a huge bite and her date was testing her to see if she’d talk with her mouth full.

As I mentioned in my earlier post, we decided to go to Pizza Pie Café and sing karaoke. After much back and forth mind changing Cara and I finally agreed to stick with our original plan. At Pizza Pie we had a quick battle of “Who Gets to Pay” but I argued louder and eventually Alex had to surrender. I won’t bore you with the play by play of who said what but I was laughing all night. Unfortunately the karaoke room was really crowded so we only stayed for two songs but we sat close enough that we could sing along THROUGHOUT THE NIGHT.

I want to mention that this date was so much fun and only cost about 16 dollars. Being a college student has really taught me to manage my money so I want to point out that we had hours of fun without it costing and arm and a leg. In fact, this was probably one of the best bargain dates considering Alex had ten pieces of pizza and AJ ate 5 in under… probably 8 minutes.

The next thing I want to bring up about my date is the doorstep scene. I know that this is the moment most people dread and probably a big reason why they don’t date more. I’ve been there. Trying to figure out where to put your hands for a hug or how to reject or accept a kiss can cause panic attacks. I think the only criticism I could have about this doorstep goodbye was that a friend of theirs came to visit with us without realizing it was a date, so he was left standing there while we hugged goodbye. But it was a short, sweet hug. I tell you this because even if you don’t have a major crush on your date you can hug them goodbye without it being romantic.

I know that the what if game is a time waster but I want you to know that if I hadn’t gone on this date I would have spent my night writing my Rhetorical Analysis paper then turning in early. But instead I am here; bouncing off the wall from too much pink lemonade. To think, just a few hours ago I was sick with worry thinking about all of the things that could go horribly wrong but it turned out terrific. Except for me accidentally running a red light and AJ being a backseat driver, it was overall a huge success. I have conquered one of my biggest fears so I have no doubt that you can too.

 

 

 

Cara and AJ

 AJ after eating 5 pieces in the same time it took Cara to eat one

Me and Alex

Too late to back out now

Tonight started out perfect. Nothing could be more perfect than rocking the house in the de Jong Theater with Vocal Point. But now you’re probably wondering why it only started perfect. That’s because it didn’t end as great as it began. Let me start from the beginning. A few days ago my roommates were helping me come up with a date idea when one of them suggested going to Pizza Pie Café on Tuesday because it’s karaoke night. But that gave us a strict time table to find a date. The following night a friend of ours, Alex, was playing cards with us when one roommate told him about my project. So they unofficially asked him to go with us. Anyone who knows Alex knows how fun and easy going he is so he gladly agreed.

That brings us to tonight. Since Alex was taken, and the only other guy who visits our apartment regularly is AJ, I had to ask AJ out. And Tuesday was quickly approaching. So Alex and AJ came over for card games as usual, but the subject never came up. In fact, I couldn’t say a single word to AJ because he spent the whole night flirting with my roommate, Cara. As curfew came I panicked. Well, let’s face it; I had been panicking all night. The ball of nerves in my stomach had grown until it was a monster eating my insides. At the last possible moment I pulled Alex aside. I can’t recall what I actually said but I think it was something like this, “Remember how we talked about going to Pizza Pie. Well… will you go with me? Officially?” Alex, being Alex, was very sweet about it and seemed flattered that I would ask him.

Meanwhile, AJ was already out the door when I yelled his name. If I have to go on a date then so does Cara. We are each others wing-women; when one person goes down, we take the other with us. So there Cara was and had no choice but to ask him to Pizza Pie. And that is how I got a date for Tuesday and a couple to double with. My traitorous stomach is still making me nauseous but it’s too late to do anything about it now.

The Next Six Weeks

So now that you’ve seen the famous Boys will be Girls youtube video (if you haven’t, here is the link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gspaoaecNAg ), have you ever wondered what it would be like for a girl to be a boy?

For the next six weeks I’m going to take on a role that most view as the man’s job; the asker. Girls usually prefer to be the asked but this has led to too many lonely Saturday nights with an empty ice cream carton. What would it be like to always have a date? I’m going to find out. Each week I will ask out a different guy and plan a fun (and most likely very cheap) date.

Now would be the right time to gasp in horror. Blaspheme! But maybe it’s not. What about 3 Nephi 14:12 which says "Therefore, all things whatsoever ye would that men should do unto you, do ye even so to them, for this is the law and the prophets". It is okay for girls to make the first move. If I don’t make the first move then I will be the one staring at the bottom of the bowl wondering why I’m still single. 

One more thing. I’m scared to death. So don’t think I’m doing this because I’m boy crazy or just really outgoing; I’m not. I’m usually the anti-social roommate who won’t even go to ward date night. If you’re reading this thinking, “I can’t do that, she’s just that type of person. That’s not for me.” Stop it. If I can do this then you can too. Women asked for equal rights and now we have it. So use it or lose it.